Hello, I've been reading part of your last thread, very similar history of our husbands, my MIL abandoned my dh and his siblings when they were teens. And here he is doing the same, and the few times I brought up the similarities he acted like it was the most hurtful thing I'd ever said to him. I no longer bring it up as a result, but how can they not see that THEY need to break this cycle? Do they want to destroy their relationship with their kids the way their mum did with them? It is just mystifying I do NOT want my sons to ever end up behaving like their dad, so I am determined to stay married, to get past this MLC of his, to build a better relationship for the future. I wonder sometimes if his fear of being abandoned is so great that he tried to do it first (which is ridiculous because I would never have abandoned him). Sometimes I wonder whether a mother abandoning her kids causes more damage because the mother tends to be the primary attachment figure. It breaks my heart to see parents doing this stuff to their kids You will be ok though, 6 months after my dh left and I'm finally in a better place, and he is too actually.
I do NOT want my sons to ever end up behaving like their dad, so I am determined to stay married, to get past this MLC of his, to build a better relationship for the future. I wonder sometimes if his fear of being abandoned is so great that he tried to do it first (which is ridiculous because I would never have abandoned him). Sometimes I wonder whether a mother abandoning her kids causes more damage because the mother tends to be the primary attachment figure. It breaks my heart to see parents doing this stuff to their kids 