Midlife crisis wife

[Wolfman]

Sandi.
I know she is probably burned out. i told her she should take off one year or switch careers or go to another district. But she refused all of it. Mostly because with our 2 incomes we live anger comfortable life, we go on multiple vacations a year, go out to dinner all the time, put the kids in various activities, etc. she does not want to give all of that up. She said if she took off for one year then we wouldn’t be able to go on vacation. I told her it would just be for one year. She said she would rather work and suffer and still go on vacation. Unfortunately, my W is very competitive and where we live people are constantly going on vacation and she compares our lives to everyone else. That always drove me nuts because we did so many great things but it never seemed like it was enough for her. Honestly, tell if this happened to anyone else but Facebook is a huge problem. All she does is go on there and say, “see look what so and so did, and look these people did that, and this person is going here.” She felt the need to constantly keep up or one up. She never felt satisfied. That’s why she continues to work.
It’s just sad that my W believes that divorce will be better for everyone. Especially when she has recognized the changes but doesn’t want to give it a shot.

Question: One of her complaints about the marriage was that I didn’t text her all the time, like during the day to say hi or how she was doing. I did it maybe once a week but she wanted it all the time. I know I’m not suppose to pursue but should I text her during the day to ask how her day is or just to say hi? Thanks everyone you have really been helping me!!!!!