Hit by the dreaded ILYBNILWY

[Ready2Change]

I just re-read your posts in your thread (Too many people to keep track of all the details of everyone). This stands out.

she was telling me that my W said she still wants to D but at the same time is confused because she is noticing how I'm becoming more independent and focused on the things I need to do

She wants you to be independent. She wants you to focus on getting things done.

Read these post EVERY DAY:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forum...ain=47467&Number=2057224#Post2057224
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forum...ain=46578&Number=1998146#Post1998146
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forum...ain=44595&Number=1852615#Post1852615

I believe you have a chance of changing your wife’s feelings for you. You have to face this with confidence. You have to lead. You have to face the biggest fear head on with confidence. You have to challenge your belief. What you fear you attract. Listen, This stuff is not easy. You have to let her go to get her back.

I'm confused how I am being passive aggressive by not participating in the process of filing for D, I will be going against what I believe by doing it this way.

This is from Wiki:
Passive-aggressive behavior is characterized by a pattern of indirect resistance to the demands or requests of others and an avoidance of direct confrontation.

This is how I meant it:
Passive-aggressive behavior is characterized by indirect resistance to the requests of your wife.




What I am recommending might not change your wife’s mind. It is one option for you to consider.
Others options might build up more resentment with her.

I would like to hear other peoples thoughts.