He is not a bad guy. He would have been really really loyal, like loyal through thick and thin. Which is a quality on the top of my list. I felt safe with him in that respect. I too pride myself as being loyal and a part of me feels bad that I was not like that with him. He was ok with my flaws and issues and having a young child.
I have only been in 2 serious relationships prior - my ex husband (you guys know the story) and a super jealous, controlling cheater when I was in college. With them it’s more black and white. They did some serious shi!t and I never broke things off with them. This guy did not do anything seriously wrong. He didn’t cheat, he didn’t lie, he did not physically assault me. So this is not black and white.
I hate the idea of discarding people out of my life. It’s elective death and mourning. It feels bad. And I’m really depressed. I kind of wish I had went in to this screening better. I ignored this stuff and focused on the positives and then eventually the negatives go to be too much for me to want to be around. But I do love him.
I think my story is an example of why you shouldn’t exclusively date and get serious immediately post DB.
