AnotherStander. I'm not implying that all that validating is wimpy. It's a communication skill that really needs to be hones and address I'm grateful for Wonka putting up the cheat sheet on here as well as I'm reading. I Hear You by Michael Sorensen. I'm doing my best to put it into practice empathetically trying to 180 on Old behaviors and breaking old habits. The frat boy mentality is a severe problem in our culture today and I will agree with you on that.
The point that I was trying to illustrate however is why is it that 60 years ago, men acted like men and women acted like women. Both clearly using their own style of language women understood men and men understood women without too much difficulty. Then in the eighties the culture shifted and women ask men to be more sensitive, ironically this is what turns them off now and now women have developed somewhat of a masculine frame in our culture and a lot of the men have developed in the effeminate frame. Neither one feels natural. A typical wife working wife of today will complain that she's so stressed out between the kids the house the duties and the workforce, putting them into a masculine frame. the man today is even more unavailable because he's juggling just as much as well in some circumstances and he's even more distance, with all the electronic distractions of today TV media Sports etcetera, and people wonder why marriages fail today. I really believe that this is a divide-and-conquer method implemented by pop culture and media. women love reading romance novels and building up fantasies inside their minds of how things quote-unquote should be, as well as paying attention to all of the media that revolves around this with Desperate Housewives and The Bachelor excetera excetera. Men have been taken over by the fantasy of porn, sports, divisive politics, and a legal system stacked in the woman's favor deliberately. I'm not saying a woman shouldn't follow her dreams in the workforce and be equally paid in contrast to a man, I'm not saying that women should be dutiful Housewives and be barefoot and pregnant, that is just wrong and sexist. What I am saying is that in America 60 years ago when the nuclear family was able to live off of one paycheck and the husband was a breadwinner and the wife was the housewife it worked a lot better and there's a lot more morals and much better dynamics of the nuclear family. This is what is missing today by Design. Feminism has sold women rubbish and a bad bill of goods as well as some women's empowerment although well-meaning, too many women today apparently have the mindset that they are the prize they are entitled and that they don't need a man. There are a lot of undertones of misandry with this
