13 years and 2 kids pt. 5

[Hurt213]

AS,

Thanks for the feedback, it was really helpful. I came home late tonight (late day at work and gym afterwards, since its ex'es weekly visit day with the kids, so there was no reason for me to be at home).

I came in and made the kids ready for bed, and then told her that it was alright for her to leave now, since I was about to tug in the kids. I asked her this weekend, if It was possible for me to hit the gym after work on her visit day - however she informed me she had plans, and that was not possible. I managed to squeeze it in, in the timeframe she provided.

It was fine actually, a month ago I would be annoyed about her rejecting to stay an hour longer, however its my time with the kids, so I can't expect that, and I made it work, so thats really great - personal growth .

I have a question, because I dont really feel anything when I look at her, Im just empty, and maybe im overloaded, but I j just get so very tired when she is present. I do however conduct myself with grace. I have no intentions for smalltalk of any sorts, and I go about my business when she is around - she is there to visit the kids, and she has a new life with a new man, and I dont want anything to do with that, and I think she realizes, if not, it doesnt really matter - it is what it is.

So the question: She was packing stuff to take for the rest of the week to wherever she is going, and then she began telling me about the daycare schedule for the rest of the week, and were pacifiers could be found for S2 and all practical stuff. So heres the thing... It really annoyed me and I am not sure if I am reading into it the wrong way. I see two scenarios here:

1. She just wants to be helpful and co-parent to the best of her ability.
2. She dont think I have anything under control and wants to make sure everything is under control.

I guess I reacted a bit, but I stopped her, and told her (no voice raised or anything), just told her, that I had everything covered, and if not, then me and the kids could surely figure it out for ourselves.

She said "eh... okay whatever" with a low pitch, and I dont think I am reading into anything if I say, that she was annoyed by it.

Thoughts? Just to clarify: I dont care if she gets annoyed, pissed or anything with me - that boat has sailed. However, If I am reading into things in the wrong way, and misconduct myself because of it, then I want to learn, so we can co-parent in the best way possible.

I just feel like she is going around in the same circle (telling me what, when and how, just as when we were together), and frankly, I found that to be very invasive.