WAW says I'm the "perfect husband and partner"

[Nutcrac]

Wow Jamine. You defined a lot that happened with my story especially my Ex's arrogant behaviour towards me. Other than the EA part, pretty much the entire thing revolved around what i faced in my stitch. Top it all, We had SSM issues and I faced verbal abuse as well. I read all your posts including the the DB veteran comments. In fact I think you share the same job as I have and we pretty much are from similar regions from Asia (Working from home thingy gave it away!!!) .
Interestingly, the timeline is so seemingly similar. I was in the EXACT position as you are last year around this time. And now I am in a free man in a far better situation and shape and enjoying my single life.

Since we both are from similar backgrounds, I can advice you one thing for sure - Your marriage is over (I know it is hard but it is true. Please don't take me wrong) You need to take suggestions from all the veteran's post here and follow their advice diligently. Become stronger. Stop giving a damn to her. Add to this, her family will always support her and will go with her decisions. They may be buttering you and trying to soothe you, but in the background they are cooking up things against you. So any innocent gesture from your (soon to be) Ex will have to be put behind and you move forward like a man and come to the level where I stand - a level with Dignity and Respect, that no one can simply take it away. I can totally imagine your situation and I definitely FEEL for you man. In fact i do see a very similar me in you and trust me nothing can go wrong with GAL. You need to start getting attractive again, women should find you impressive, start dating, move away from her thoughts. That is the ONLY WAY to go and trust me I have learnt the hard way. You will come out just fine in the end ultimately.

One thing I wanted to advice you is the Remote work thingy. I was doing a very similar thing as you did. This sometimes make women wonder that we are lazy as they keep seeing us not the "Outdoorish" active type. Here is where your respect has slowly dwindled overtime and essentially she is kinda "bored" of you as she has seen enough of you. She is kinda done with you and wants to try something new, which is why she is talking to OM and doing all the nonsense. Try doing GAL (gym and stuff) and very limited communications with her and see how it slightly invokes interest in her (although it is temporary) I can tell you for sure the chances of this divorce going through is 99%. But if you keep lingering to her thoughts in the future, you will eventually get depressed and you will not do any justice for yourself. So I suggest suck it up and start moving on! There is nothing left for you in this relationship. And a word of advice since we both are from similar culture, DO NOT give a DAMN to what society things or what Others think. You do what you feel is moral, integral and gives you the happiness you want. You are the one you should be focusing on. Everything else is secondary.

Give the divorce she wants and LET HER GO. If she wants you back she will come back to you, If not move on be happy and do what you need to progress in your life and in your career.

Ready2Change - "I'd love to see them both when I'm in town in an upbeat way, and not reference my W." - perfect -- I am not sure if I agree with you 100% on this. Being in touch with mutual friends (especially the ones close to your Ex) will send the wrong signal. Doesn't it?