Hit by the dreaded ILYBNILWY

[Ready2Change]

That's just it though, I'm not trying to block her and I already told her I won't. But the way she is trying to file requires that both of us file together, fill the papers out together and be in complete agreement on everything. Including that the marriage can't be saved. I've already told her I will not participate in the filing so I don't even know why she would try to come to me this way.

You are being passive aggressive.

This is a business agreement. If she want to follow this process, do it. Get everything in complete agreement.



I keep my clothes. You keep yours. Both are equal value for balance sheet. Do you agree?
I keep this stuff. You keep this other stuff. Both are equal value on the balance sheet. Do you agree?
I keep my 401K. You keep yours. Mine is valued at X Yours is valued at Y.

I keep my car. You keep your car. this is the value of each. This is the difference that goes on one half of the balance sheet.


I want to keep the house. This is the value of the house. Do you agree or disagree?

Since you disagree on the price, I will let you have it on your half of the balance sheet.



Keep splitting the cookie.

You have these credit cards with this much debt. I have these with this much.


At some point there are two totals. An equalization amount comes from one of the two. I agreed to equalize of the course of several months.


What else besides the current assets and debt? Does she want maintanance? If not agree, to that. If so, think about that.

Child support is a formula. Are you pushing for 50/50 custody? Does she want more or less than that?