MLC? Confused what to do (Part 2)

[sandi2]

I was referencing the NMMNG and getting my B@lls back as you put it. Working on my fear of abandonment. She has admitted to hitting me. Even the text to my sister. I have never retaliated when she hits me. No other drugs or anger issues. I have actually been calm. Just wanted that to be clear.

Thanks. Anthony, I'm glad to hear you clarify what you meant. Speaking of getting your b@lls back, I look at that the same way as doing 180's. Some H's want their WW to remain in the house, so he'll have a chance to show off his "improvements". She's already made up her mind. There is no improvement he could make to change her mind when she's wayward. She'll just resent him for it. (She's the one with the problem b/c she's wayward). 180's don't necessarily mean in terms of self improvement. In some cases there are 180's (such as getting his b@lls back). I see your situation as very unhealthy and things are steadily getting worse. If she sees you being assertive (shall we say), I'm worried she will claim you are being aggressive and she is afraid. I've read several stories over the years how WW's will make fake claims that they are "afraid". One WW was throwing a terrible fit, and her H simply walked into the doorway of the room, and she called the cops and claimed he was physically preventing her from leaving the room. They put him in handcuffs and took him to jail. Oh, and she got the idea for fake charges from her BFF.

Yes, I want all men to have their b@lls. I'm just saying that what you may interpret as a demonstration of having your b@lls back..... and how she'll decide to use it against you.....could be two different things. Make sense? Things have reached a very serious stage. You can have b@lls when facing a hungry tiger, and still be eaten alive. So, be smart. She's already shown DV by hitting you in you in anger and it will get worse until she gets away from you. See, this situation is building, and not in a good way. You two need physical space from each other.