I found concrete evidence that WW has been lying to me (and kids) about where she has been going almost every weekend - and that it indeed is the OMs house.
Question for vets: Does this change anything for me? Before it was pretty easy for me to ignore her in our house and just play/enjoy my kids but now that I am 100 percent sure she is not only lying but infidelity is involved it is hard for me to not grit my teeth every time I see her. I really would be happier at this point with her out of the house.
Question #2: Can this be used at all in any way legally during the D process? For example, showing pattern of lying to me and kids and infidelity - would that help my case on having to pay Alimony? I know courts dont seem to care about infidelity regarding child custody though.
I knew where she was going or is going most of the time. It has been hard to deal with her in the house during these situations. Therefore, I understand gritting your teeth. Detaching is hard. I hope it is easier to detach once she is out of the house and I can work on myself more. I hope you can get a temporary moving out situation for her like I was successful as shown below:
Might depend on your state and at-fault or no-fault guidelines. Ohio is a no-fault state. Therefore, a divorce or a legal separation here would allow both spouses to stay in the house until the end. You can request exclusive rights to the house during the proceedings that will remove the other but here in Ohio, it has to be something such as abusive towards the spouse or children, or some other type of emotional things. The L I talked to said that most spouses that earn less would move out during a divorce proceeding to get the free spousal support that is not counted towards the spousal support received after the divorce. That is in Ohio and local county thing. That varies from county to county here.
I suggested just yesterday the dissolution of marriage or a divorce. She chose dissolution of marriage. After calming down, she came and talked to me and we decided on her temporarily moving out to see where things go from there.
