My best guess why it’s driving her nuts. Since she doesn’t believe the changes are real she is expecting the old wolfman to show himself. But this is a whole new wolfman and it’s tugging on her conscious that she is divorcing the wolfman she always wanted. She is looking for reasons to justify her actions and I am not giving it to her. Again, this is just a guess.
First, a little curiosity on her part about your GAL is a very good thing. Almost all WASs/WSs will eventually accuse you of seeing someone else. And they do that because either they still care, or because they want you to give them an excuse to continue on their path.
Also, your last post is dead on. My WW was always doing things to "test" me. To see if my changes were real or fake. I told the story about one of my 180s was to loosen control of spending. I had been doing all of the grocery shopping going back several years. So I told her, "I need you to take over the grocery shopping." I gave her no parameters. I didn't try to control it. I didn't even give her a limit.
She went and spent a little over $300. (I typically was spending $100-120 every week and a half or 2 weeks), I helped her carry them in, and put them away. And I remained upbeat and non-plussed by the overspending. Two interesting things:
1) She said: "I spent too much!" I didn't say anything." She then looked at me and said: "$500". I said, "Oh ok." Smiling. She then said, "No just kidding, $325."
2) She then said as we were putting things away; "Yeah, I probably overspent." I said: "Nah, most of what you got will eventually get consumed. Its not like you bought a bunch of perishables that will go bad quickly." (things like tuna fish, she spent probably like $25 on packaged tuna.) She said: "That's exactly what I thought too!"
The point is to 180 on how you would normally react, and cement your changes. It was easy for me once I framed everything as being that I loved her more than anything else not including God (1st) and my daughter (just as much).
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
