Thanks Sandi, I didn't have to reveal anything about her recent, last 2 months lying about leaving the house. It was just that feeling that I had and literally when I BD'ed on her a few weeks back, I asked and went back each weekend and she confessed.
The transparency has been there and the continued remorse, I have access to her bank account that she wants me to manage now, her phone records, phone, cc statements etc. She is still in a lot of pain and doesn't know how I will ever be able to forgive her and I am not giving her a full pass yet but told her things are moving well and in time could get past this.
I am not pressuring for transparency daily but I am moving forward with eyes wide open so she can feel comfortable with the process.
As far as the locations it basically an area in the county that was frequently where they met and no we don't go anywhere near that area because we don't live near there and was her getaway because it was far enough away from our home. However it is somewhat near where I work and only explained to her that it is difficult for me to be in that area. i felt it necessary to discuss that with her so she felt the pain that I had, and have, even just being near there.
I have my eyes open and am moving slowly forward. It is a strange place because now my W craves me all the time. She says she would never have made it without me and is showing me attention way different than before when she was cake eating, which felt very fake. This attention does feel more genuine and often opens up about her remorse.
The MC might take a while and I am not pushing it yet. She did not like her IC and is afraid that MC will will also suggest us not being together. I know we need to get to that point but am letting her work through some of this together.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
