My D5 is really having a hard time with saying goodbye in daycare these days. She will cry, and hold onto me tight. Its new, and she hasn't done this before, and I can't but help think that it is because she only has one parent at a time.
This is not at all unusual for someone her age. It happened with both of our D's (different times, but around the same age) even though we were happily married at the time. We talked to a counselor and were advised not to make a big show when leaving them at daycare, just hug them, tell them you love them and will see them later and then leave no matter how dramatic the display they make. What happens 99% of the time is as soon as you are gone the crying stops and they are off doing stuff with their friends. If you linger then you are sending them the message that if they pitch a fit they get to keep you there a little longer, thus making the problem worse. So we did as advised and after a week or two they both stopped with the fits.
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I blame my ex, because she is making my daughter hurt, and that makes me hurt. I was frustrated this morning in the car because of it. I know, that I am not going to get anywhere by talking with my ex about this, so I comfort my daughter to the best of my ability.
When things like this come up, don't seek to assign blame, seek solutions. The bottom line is you are assuming it has to do with your breakup when it may just be your D acting like a 5-year-old. If you really think it has to do with the break-up then get D in counseling. Also talk to the daycare, explain the situation and ask them to watch for signs that she may need counseling.
