yes - meetup is good. I might join a walking group. We are getting a dog soon (this has been planned for ages and I decided to go ahead despite the separation - I think I need it and the kids need it and it will be fun and something new we can enjoy without H) and there is a dog walking group so I have made a note of that.
Getting out in the evenings is really tricky right now. I have two weeks until I finish a big work project of my own, then I will be much freer. There is one daytime and a few evening meetings of the church I go to - so I will get more involved in that and I try to be in touch with people who are members for phone calls and visits and stuff - and that's really important to me. I'd like to do that more.
And yes - I am a pretty small person to begin with and I think I lost over a stone in a fortnight. People commented at work and were worried about me. I swapped food for coffee and nictotine but that's stopped now and I am making a lot of efforts with my meals and nutrition. Have also been baking, and I enjoy that very much.
I guess it's just 100% focus on my self care and one foot in front of the other until work quietens down at the end of this month and I can get some space to breathe. I really want to use that time to be outside, listen to podcasts while walking, play with the new dog, have coffee dates with friends, etc. I am actually looking forward to it, and I don't need H to do any of those things, but they aren't things that will sour or risk the possibility of R - if I end up wanting that - either - so like you say, Flying Solo, they are good things to concentrate on while I am uncertain.
Send encouraging message today and got cordial reply. I asked for goodnight texts when I saw him at the weekend.
