There were some videos I watched on YouTube regarding this. You may want to research your share of it and she will need to start looking into what is needed on her part if she is willing. She has to understand your needs and want to meet them. She may not like it or have issues with it but this is where your support comes in big time. She really has to want to make it work and be committed. There’s online help to sort of guide you both into it. There’s things you can say from a loving angle that doesn’t put blame on her but moreso lets her know you need answers. There’s a couple MWD videos and I believe she addresses some of this in hers. As the Lbs you may want to find specific time to address this so you both know there is a set schedule to discuss so there isn’t a looming ever present atmosphere like you will always be bringing up what happened. Help establish some structure back into your lives.
Lost regarding NC AND OM, I think it’s very important as a first step for her to show You and OM she has chosen You over him. She can not choose you because of something he could not provide to her. Does this make sense? Where does that put you?
Do you know what happens when ppl NC each other? You NC her to give time and space, hoping she will come around so guess what her NC might do to this guy? What happens if he starts to really pursue and tells her he will do whatever she wants and will commit, maybe even lying to get back with her? What happens then if you weren’t the reason she broke it off with him. So let’s say she is angry with him and he’s bothering her. If she hasn’t fully resolved her feelings of choosing you, does this put you in the clear from OM2? She has to choose you and show you, doing whatever it takes.
There’s some things you may want to be less direct with supporting but this is not one of them. She needs to show you in front of you she is willing to tell the world and anyone else she chose you.
I don’t want to see you have a false start or see her playing games with you when she needs to get her act straight if she truly wants to fix the MR.
I agree with Neffer, honesty on what you want and need. Research some of how to convey this without blame.
Is it spring break for you and your son yet? Any plans going on? (((Hugs))) buddy.
H 49 , W 47 T 23, M 17 S11, S5 BD: 7/18 IHS: 7/18 - 3/19 Physically Separated: 3/19-4/19 Piecing: 4/19 - Current
