Today, W discussed the options on the buyers and I listened and chose one so now we have the ball rolling. She discussed a possible contingency with temp leasing. I agreed and she brought up that I can move in the new house for a while if the funds are tight. I didn't say anything. I've decided to be unfazed and show her that nothing of our sitch is bothering me.
That all sounds fine. I just wanted to add a quick comment that while getting out of the house can be emotionally draining, in the long run it's probably the best scenario. My brother dug in his heels and refused to leave their big house when he and his ex got D'd. They've been D'd for 10 years or so and that house has been an albatross around his neck. He's deeply in debt because of the big bills and property taxes and basically stuck there because he can't afford to fix it up to sell and he's upside down on the mortgage thanks to cash-out refi's. Just do what you can to live within your means, we've been through enough without adding financial woes on top of everything else!
Hey AS, thanks for the reassurance. For a second, I thought about what if I stayed back, but it’s not ideal; it’s quite a ways from the new place and where the kids will be.
I remember seeing you post about your bros sitch. Sorry to hear about that. Sounded like he was cutting off his nose to spite his face from what I remembered between him and xW. It seems really easy for the LBS to get hung up with dealing with the emotional baggage that it can stunt any forward progress. It’s a choice we must make though to let go of theirs, own ours, grit down and keep going.
Definitely will plan to live within my means. It’ll take some adjusting and making things work.
H 49 , W 47 T 23, M 17 S11, S5 BD: 7/18 IHS: 7/18 - 3/19 Physically Separated: 3/19-4/19 Piecing: 4/19 - Current
