HI
Just posting this again not sure if my post previously has been seen.
Just wanted to give you an update. When she came back that Sunday she was gone for like 3-4 days. I said if you plan to be gone for 3 days please tell me as I do't know if you are missing person and should call police or not. I asked her to move all her stuff out of our bedroom.

Then we talked about that she should move out as it's not healthy for me to live this way. I did not ask her about affair or anything. She said it's her house and she won't be kicked out. We both own the place. I asked her to find a place to rent but at the moment does not look like she is going to do that.
After this talk I noticed the she felt quite guilty, but did not stop her affair. I had snooped around to see what's going on. It appears that she does not see future with affair partner, however she is avoiding me as much as possible. She delays to get up so she would not see me in the morning or goes to the 3rd floor as soon as she can.

After this talk regarding her moving out and packing she is trying to avoid me as much as possible. Couple days ago I said maybe we should sell condo or I could buy out. She sent message to her girlfriend asking about this that I posting too much on Facebook. It looks like she is concerned what to tell her mother in regards what's going on. I had couple posts with my friends where we went to the beach and got some beer. I feel it's getting closer to divorce then to anything else.
I feel like I don't even care about her and if I even can think about her as person. I guess it's kind sad.

Sandy if you "I can give you some tips about the type of changes you can make that are more effective in your WW's final decisions and the direction she'll take. I just don't know that you are ready to trust it. You have a lot of fear and you have to lose the fear of losing her. Actually, you've already lost her in many ways. The way to draw her back is by becoming a man who knows his worth and has enough self respect to not put up with a cheating W. It doesn't matter how long it may take you to find another good person. You have to ask yourself........what kind of person do you have now? "

I am not even sure if there is anything I can do anymore. Probably I am just looking to have peace and quote.

I felt that it helped me with detachment when I repeated that my wife that I had known had died and this person is some stranger living in this property.

Yesterday, when she was leaving I said you used to have high morale and now not sure what is happening. I feel like she is feeling guilty about her behavior. I am not sure if I should more...