The main reason I was wondering if there were gender-based differences is that my husbands mother had an MLC when she turned 40 and did pretty much exactly what he is doing now (at exactly the same age). She decided that her life was too boring and that she had wasted it. She wanted freedom and adventure. She had an affair. And she divorced her husband. 5 years after her divorce she regretted it all but by then her husband had remarried.
My husband has never forgiven his mother. He blames her for breaking up his family. But somehow he is blind to the fact he is doing the same thing.
To me the similarity is uncanny. I wondered if men and women often do the same thing or if this was something particular to my husband and his mother/family. Seems like it is just MLC script.
first i want to say sorry that your going through all this. I heard the same stuff come out of my wifes mouth. I crave independence and freedom. That I was holding her back whatever that means. I'm not sure what shes going through still and probably never will. Thats sad that he can see what his mom did but can't see what he's doing.
