Originally Posted by LH19
Originally Posted by toenail
“this will be the last time i will be asking you about the mortgage. if you are not willing to pay your part of it then i don’t have a choice but to call the bank and inform them that we will default with our payments. i would assume whoever is advising you also told you how it will negatively impact our credit. if i don’t get a reply from you by this weekend, i will be giving the mortgage company a phone call come monday.

i have spoken to your lawyer and have agreed to meet him on the 18th. if i remember it correctly, in order for you to have your easy way out, i have given you my terms. i will repeat them again; i would want full custody of D14, her to be the 100% beneficiary
of my 403 (b), debts split in half, properties and assets acquired in “different country”split in half, my half being given or named after D14. these are my terms, and i have to put D14’s interest and future first. if you are not willing to meet them, i will be cancelling the meeting with your lawyer,i would be retaining one of my own, and will be preparing myself for a court hearing. “
any input would really be appreciated.


How about:
I am reaching out to you one more time to see if you are willing to pay your part of the mortgage. If you choose not to, I will have to call the bank and inform them that we will default on our payments. If I don’t hear from you by this weekend, I will call the mortgage company on Monday.

I have a meeting set up with your Lawyer on March 18th. I will be advising him that I want full custody of D14. We will split all the assets and debts 50/50.

Please let me know if these terms are acceptable to you.

No need to make any threats right now. See if she accepts these terms. You have a lot of anger and bitterness in you.





Thanks LH. do i sound angry and bitter on with my own reply? To tell you frankly, i don’t feel that way. Not really trying to threaten her, but if that’s how I come across, then I really can’t see it. Anyway, that’s why am here to ask how to reply better without sounding andgry and threatening. Will use yours instead. m

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