Story and Symptoms of a WAW/MLC

[SteveLW]

Yeah Steve85. I'm aware that the behavioral patterns of the WAW/WAS as I've studied on here, is that the sense of loss doesn't hit them until they've fully separated, in some cases the "grass is greener" for them on the other side, and in other cases it isn't. The price of the fantasy of their "new life" doesn't line up with reality.

I realized a dynamic about my wife since I've taken a few steps back over the last three months.
She has a lot of ambition and goals and desires. To lose weight, to travel, to live a different life, to "follow her heart" and all other women's empowerment psycho babble. Not that I don't encourage such things. I do. I've just observed that the women's empowerment spiel is almost always based off of hypergamy, misandry, and warped feminism. But I know her dynamic, she will try and try and try, and where she has loads of ambition, vision, and goals, she lacks discipline, principles, and commitment. Probably one of the reasons why she's failing to commit to the marriage. Oh well... Her loss...Good luck, and I wish her well. Can't wait to sell the house in the up and coming months and move forward with my life.

Even though I haven't had the ability to GAL as much (I've only been out once to a movie by myself in the last 2 months) because wife and child either came down with the flu, or because I work 14 hour days with drive time.

I've been feeling great, and have been taking on much more individualistic and positive mindset. The W and I don't talk at all anymore, close our doors, and do our own thing, except out of pragmatic necessities. In a way I'm glad because it allows me to detach more daily, and see just how manipulative, emotionally unavailable and ungrateful a person can be. Just putting me closer to getting what I deserve in life, who I want to spend my time with, what my expectations and standards are, and how I want to share myself with other people.

IHC sounds like you are doing pretty well, but I would start GAL more. You being gone is a loss she can feel.

I do want to correct one thing: " I'm aware that the behavioral patterns of the WAW/WAS as I've studied on here, is that the sense of loss doesn't hit them until they've fully separated"

That isn't a hard and fast rule. Some do not feel a sense of loss until S and/or D. However, GAL, and detaching, especially after instituting 180s and become a man only a fool would leave, does cause a sense of loss in many WAWs/WASs. Sometimes that don't respond to that sense of loss right away, which is why DBing is a game of patience.

IHC I think if you double-down on the GAL, and continue to detach, she will feel a sense of loss and it may wake her up.