Ok I am at a loss of what to do with the mother of my children and any advice is helpful..
It has been 3 years this month that we have been living apart, she has made no effort to take responsibility for her actions and continues to lie and act like a spoilt child even 3 years later. I have moved on and enjoying my life, the kids and I are great doing many great things, travelling, hiking in the Alps, enjoying the apartment and town we live in and even though we drive 20-30 mins every morning to school, we accept this so we can enjoy living where we have many benefits. Everyone we know is so positive about it, my friends, my family, the kindergarten and schools say there is no issues with the children, they are both doing well, everyone except their mother....
She is like a broken, stuck record and I'm at a loss as to how to solve it. There is so much money wasted with lawyers and anything we say no to, she comes back with the same topic saying it hasn't been addressed and they are still waiting on an answer... Even my lawyer is not sure what to do anymore..
I have told her to go be happy with the guy she left me for, even though he wants nothing to do with the children and that I'm not here to fill any void she is missing form him. If she is not happy, she should talk with him and not do the same as she did with me.. I cut down the communication between us to between 8am and 8.30pm unless emergencies with the children.. She didn't like that... She can contact the children directly as they both have their own iPad yet she wants to be able to talk to me whenever she wants but won't do it by email, then runs off to the lawyer to send letters... Lately, she wanted to have phone calls, I said no because we didn't need them and they are not useful beacuse if I say no to something she gets on the attack and makes demands so emails or texts are better. I also told her that I met someone recently that I was interested in getting to know and who was interested in getting to know me and out of respect for her, we don't need to have phone calls as she would be my priority should things work out along with the children.. Well this just seems to have made things worse....
The last 3 weeks have been non-stop complaints that I live too far away, that the kids should live with her (even though they don't want that and are tired of her negativity), that she doesn't get any money (she earns close to me while only working 75%) and no matter how many times we say no, everything is fine the way it is she doesn't let it go...
My dad's girlfriend thinks that it's a case of she doesn't want me (in her head) but she doesn't want anyone else to have me so continuely makes my life difficult.
I know this is a site to try and save a marriage but this is best when it isn't, we are just not right for each other and she changed her whole core to fit in with where we now live. Everything is so small minded and negative and I don't know what to do anymore... I guess I am the WAS now even though she hasn't said anything to make me think she wants something different but the neediness and negativity is sucking the life out of me...
