WWhas stopped paying half of the mortgage, which is kind of a burden now. she used to write checks for the bills, and the mortgage. but she decided that we need to put the house on the market (we just got it april, 2018), and that’s when she stopped paying her half of the mortgage.
It does sound like it's time to get a L. You're going to need some help sorting through this mess. I would think there are legal ramifications to your W refusing to pay have the mortgage if she is a co-owner. At the least I would think that the half of the payments that she hasn't been paying for the last year would be deducted from her half of the equity. It's time to get with a L and discuss that and how to document it.
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i worry about her trying have custody of D14, wherein D14 really doesn’t want anything to do with her. D14 despises her, and the R between them is non- existent.
I think she's old enough that she would be allowed to decide that for herself, it depends on the laws in your state though. Some allow the child to choose if they are 12 or over, others are 14 or over, and others let the judge decide based on the child being of "sufficient age and capacity to communicate their preference regarding who they want to live with". Again it's something to discuss with a lawyer.
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i know i may sound vengeful and angry
I don't think you sound that way.
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when D 14’s wounds have healed, i can ask her to spend time with her.
That's not on you. That's for D and W to work out. When you talk to D about it just listen and validate. Don't try to point her a certain direction.
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after this long post, my question would be, is it a good idea to go and sit down with WW and her L without having any L with me? I would like to go, sit down, express my terms again, and not say any word. if they don’t agree to my terms, i walk out. would this be a good idea? or should i start retaining my own L and let her handle it?
No I absolutely would not meet with them without your own L. Go in 100% prepared.
