One big rule in DB'ing is DO NOT TALK TO MUTUAL FRIENDS AND RELATIVES ABOUT YOUR SITCH. PERIOD. Just don't do it. Blood is thicker than water, he is on her side not yours. I don't care if he says his W is mad and won't talk to him and blah blah blah. He is a lawyer, and he will tell you whatever he can to get his client's way. And his client is your W.
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He suggests that I move out on a temporary basis of two week.
Go back and read what all of us have been telling you. Don't move out. Her journey is going to take a hell of a lot longer than 2 weeks. It'll be a year or more. A two week separation isn't going to "prove" anything to her, except maybe that she's happier with you gone. If you move out now you are going to find it difficult indeed to move back in, and your W will really resent it and tell you how you are an evil bully for not giving her more time, and how she was just starting to change her mind but now you've ruined it all. And then you will think "oh gosh, I need to stay away longer since she's coming around" and you'll never go back. Then one day your kids will tell you about mommy's new friend that comes over all the time, and then what will you do? Go over and wave some toothless "agreement" around in the air?
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I can return prior to the 2 weeks if any other terms of the agreement are violated or if it isn't working for what I want.
Oh? And what if the locks are changed? Or OM has moved in? If you call the police guess what they will tell you- "dude you left voluntarily, you can't just walk back in, you'll have to take her to court." So you set a court date and months go by while you wait for your day in court. By the time you have it you've been out of the house so long the court is unlikely to find in your favor. Doesn't sound fair, right? WELCOME TO OUR LEGAL SYSTEM!!!!
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His logic is based on that it would put all the duties of raising the children for two weeks on her to see how that type of life would be (he knows his daughter and she would hate it - I agree).
Are you serious? You would surrender your parental rights just to try and prove a point that it's not easy taking care of kids by yourself? If you voluntarily give up your rights it's going to be darned tough to get them back no matter what that paper says.
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It also makes me look like the victim in this (that is what he says).
No, it makes you look like you don't care about custody of your kids or possession of your house.
Anyway you get the point. Please listen. Stay in the house. Focus on you and the kids. Give your W time and space. Quit trying to come up with "tricks" to "snap her out of it", they will not work.
