Good to hear from you. I have come to understand that this for the most part is projection. I also understand that I am not her husband anymore. I cannot be there to catch her if she falls. I cannot fix her problems anymore. I cannot help her anymore. As far as a relationship goes, I have told myself and I still believe that if she wants to reconcile with me down the road I will always be open to it. We have a strong shared history, 3 children, and I will always hold a place in my heart for her. However, I cannot reconcile with her in her present capacity. She needs to grow and improve herself. Unfortunately, it appears she is not doing this at all, and she may in fact be falling deeper into whatever hole she has dug. On the flip side I too need to continue on my own journey. I am working on my personal growth and development as well as who I am as a father. Whether it is my XW or a future woman they deserve a better version of myself. Just so you know I pray for myself, my kids, my XW, and everyone on here as well as anyone going through this experience. I am open to God and what he will open on my path.
Thank you again for taking the time to post on my thread.
Edit: Thank you for the book suggestion. I will be sure to get it and read it.
Last edited by Twofeet; 03/07/1908:11 PM.
H(37) W(35) D8, D5, S3 T20, M13 BD 8/31/18 EA Discovered 9/13/18 Mediation 10/3/18 W files for D 10/12/18 W moves out 11/10/18 EA confirmed 12/25/18 D Final 1/10/19
