I messed up! I snooped and saw photos of him in bed with girls (dressed) at Mardi Gras. I started relationship talk with him. I just couldn’t help it. He even said you have undone everything you have done in the last week. How do I recover this? Walk away and no contact for a few weeks? So hard with IHS. freaking out. No more snooping it does nothing. It hurt me.
So let me get this straight- you saw multiple photos of him in bed with girls... and he says that you've "undone" a week worth of progress. That was his response. Wow. Well allow me to state the obvious, that is very inappropriate behavior for a married man, especially one that just married in April of last year. His response was total deflection, he's trying to cover up his bad behavior by sending you on a guilt trip. I think you need to try and give him as much time and space as you can, so that you can start thinking clearly again because right now you're in desperation mode. Frankly I think once you settle down you'll start asking yourself whether he's worth the effort. Married less than a year and he wants to dump you, and before you hardly even have time to consider this new development he's sleezing around in bed with other women and having pictures taken. Just out of curiosity, if you had a friend in this situation what would be your advice to her?
