Thank you to you too, it's nice to actually think about someone else's situation in depth because it reveals a lot about your own situation and different perspectives Yes, you ARE entitled to be angry! But it's an unhealthy place to loiter in too long, unhealthy for you as much as for him or the marriage. Being angry makes you feel like a victim in a way too because it gives them all your power. But it takes time to process, I was definitely furious for many months!
Tomorrow I'm going to our little holiday house and then coming back Saturday morning and going running with some friends in the morning, dh is coming home and taking the kids to their activities and I'll hopefully get back in time to spend some time with him. But I'm obviously out GAL so hopefully he will miss me And I seriously need to get some work done! Sunday I'm going for a long run with a friend. How about you?
I took ds1 to lunch today, I made him talk to me because my face was numb from a dental filling (he is not chatty). Dh sent me a couple of friendly texts when I was waiting for the dentist, he did some research for me into car insurance if Brexit happens. Then ds1 asked me to buy him some clothes so we went shopping and I sent a few jokey texts and photos to dh about this, that was really nice actually. I read/heard somewhere that it's impossible to be both fearful and playful at the same time. I feel like my playful side is coming back out again, without being forced as perhaps it might have been for a while now. Then I had my IC, which was really useful. I'm finding out an awful lot about myself and the way I duck out of being vulnerable, and how I can better open up and ask for my needs to be met. My IC pointed out that dh had actually answered my need when I rang him up upset about the neighbour yesterday. So he pointed out that dh is actually meeting some needs, even if I don't think they're the ones I really need. Hmm. I told him about a dream I had which could apply to both dh and to me on different levels, I think I'll tell dh about this dream next time I see him. It was a useful session
Yes, you ARE entitled to be angry! But it's an unhealthy place to loiter in too long, unhealthy for you as much as for him or the marriage. Being angry makes you feel like a victim in a way too because it gives them all your power. But it takes time to process, I was definitely furious for many months! 