MLC? Confused what to do (Part 2)

[SteveLW]

I understand A can last 2 to 3 months, the DR book says most end within 6 months, but others can last 7 to 9 months and the other extreme, 1 to 2 years. Almost all of the A end. I am curious what causes most A to end. Do the AP get tired of waiting around for the S to leave their M? Or does the chemicals seem to just wear off on the own? Or do they have some type of argument or awakening that this isn't what they want?

Lots of reasons but it is rooted in one thing: that which is started in deception and lies isn't healthy for the long term. If you plant a diseased seed you will get a diseased plant. Most As are doomed to fail from the start.

I keep hearing and reading that the WW has to suffer a loss. What type of loss is that. Are there examples of this. How or what signs are there that the fog is lifting. I feel confident until I get around her and then I let her impact me. I was better yesterday. I just sat and laughed with the kids playing dominos. After she took a shower and came downstairs, I was just on my phone reading this site and the quotes page. I was laughing at some of the quotes (brutally honest posts that I found funny). She came down. Said a couple things and I just shook my head and then at 6:10PM, I just asked why she was still there.

You not cooking for her, cleaning for her, all those things you listed is a loss. You can make her feel a loss without leaving or getting her to leave. The best sense of lost to me is still detachment. Getting good at being detached had a profound effect on my WW. I truly credit getting better and better at detachment as turning my sitch around. Work at it. Hard. Nothing worthwhile in life is easy. Detaching emotionally and lovingly is hard. But when she tries to sting you with something she does or says and sees it roll off your back like water off a duck, she will start going "Hmmm, what is going on?!"

I was waiting for her to leave to take the kiddos to Dairy Queen. She said not until 6:30 or so. I said ok, well have fun. And went back to what I was doing.

Perfect.