It ended up being a non-starter. He came home from work late and never brought it up at all.
I guess that is kind of par for the course though. He said he was leaving February 1st. He was absolute about it the day he told me and then never said a word about it again. February 1st came and went and he didn't go. The he left me a note that said he was leaving March 1st and then never brought it up again and he is still here. It kind of seems like he works up to something and then backs off. I am sure he will want to discuss the finances again at some point.
In the year preceding BD he was all energy and get up and go. Long workouts, trips with friends, possible/probable affair. Right before BD and for 3 months after he was constantly angry, irritable and sulking. Much more wallowing than high energy. For the last month he is less angry and irritable. Now he is wallowing less but also not as high energy. He is still completely withdrawn from me although he has regained the ability to make eye contact. Mostly, he is all over the map. And from everything of read this seems like it is likely to continue.
I often think that he is hoping that I will eventually throw him out or that he can provoke a really big fight to give him a "reason" to leave. Then he doesn't have to be the bad guy.
