Steve, it seems you and Sandi are giving me conflicting messages. I understand detachment but then Sandi is suggesting standing up and getting her to not be in the house.
Well I always give way to sandi. I didn't see that she was saying that. However, I am assuming that sandi is suggesting you ask her to leave? Since legally you can't kick her out? If sandi is suggesting that then obviously I am supportive of that. But be ready for Plan B if she tells you to kick rocks.
I believe what Sandi is suggesting is that IHS is not an option. She needs to move out and suffer the consequences for her actions. Otherwise, I will just be in hell. However, I would have to use the options available to me to get her to move out temporarily to let her work on herself. If she does not or is not willing to temporarily move out, then I will use my tool of the legal avenue to either S or D. Sandi, I believe, knows that she is not going to stop talking to the OM. This is to, hopefully, get her to move out voluntarily to truly work on herself and for me to work on myself.
The only thing is if she doesn't believe that I would file for D or S, then she may try to call my bluff. At that point, I would have to actually proceed with S or D to show that I am serious. This may get her to move out voluntarily or it may start the process of S or D and let the courts decide.
