Anthony, again, you moving out is not a wise move. And you have no legal standing to force her to move (and her lawyer will advise her not to). I know it [censored] but you are stuck in this sitch until a court order that either of you has to move out.

I know you are in pain and trying to alleviate that pain. Cake eating isn't necessarily what you say it is. Cake eating is when she wants to go out and be with OM and all GGW...but still have you as her husband to fix her car, or make her food, or do her laundry. Kicking her out, cutting her financially none of that is what we are suggesting because those have legal implications. I wanted to shut off my wife's cell phone, because that is what was enabling her EA. I was told that doing that would look bad in court because I was trying to isolate her. My W is a SAHM. I pay for everything. It sucked but that is why these things suck so bad.

You say you aren't focusing on OM....but you are. If she were just going out with friends would you feel as strongly about her "spending your money"?

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018