Embracing my inner me

[peacetoday]

Hi

seems you have been going through quite a lot-Im sorry for your pain-

This is just my opinion and each of us has to choose the best direction for our situation and while many situations are alike there are also differences
I can only share my experience and hope with you-

I would put a lot of energy on the attorney and find out what your rights are and protect your assets and property and accounts-
Because the MLC has addictions in place, there is no guarantee they wont blow through all the money
The people they choose will also help them spend-
My XH spent quite a bit and I was very shocked and unaware

Knowing what I know now that would be my first focus

After that I would continue as you are healing, forgiving, seeking therapy, prayer, support
and grieving for this horrible mess

I would ask the attorney advice on what H can spend in regards to OW and new home ect..
I would ask attorney advice on how to proceed
but I would not ask H much

After a while It becomes more of a business deal with the MLC-You cant stop them no matter how nice or mean or real you are

You can be supportive and cordial- but he will continue exploring in the direction away from you-

and my experience would say- take 100% care of you--let him go--
put him on a shelf..no talks.. keep it simple
nothing you say will make him shift and may send him closer to OW-
Pray to let him go for now
work thru your grief/pain and only then will you have the ability to truly forgive and see the situation clearly for what it is

Letting GO is not giving up- letting go frees the other to live their life without judgement or advice from us-

Letting go frees us to begin our healing journey..

I posted on Marina thread an awesome story about letting go and detaching
its a good read from author and Coda expert Melanie Beattie if you care to read it-

AS you know, there are no easy fixes in the land of MLC

All the best,