MLC? Confused what to do (Part 2)

[sandi2]

Maybe I should move out temporarily then. It is against what the L say but I can write up an agreement and go from there.

Don't leave the home! Follow your lawyer's advice.

Sandi are you saying to not recommend legal separation and threaten straight up divorce?

I would not call it a recommendation or a threat. I would tell her just like I posted to you last time. You said your boundary was no open M, so what are the consequences for not honoring that boundary? That's up to you. Don't expect her to agree with anything that doesn't benefit her. WW's are selfish and greedy. You said she probably wouldn't go for getting a D. Why are you looking at your decision as if she is suppose to like it or agree with it?

I would be curious how she would respond. Based on your experience with the tough love approach, what do you think the normal reaction is for a WW to do?

If you've never played hardball (I know some people won't like that expression.....and claim I'm suggesting that you bluff) then I think she would be shocked, especially if you have abandonment issues. But more so b/c the WW is just plain arrogant. She doesn't believe her H would D her. In her mind, she's the one leaving him for the OM. So, whatever you decide, do it as if you aren't asking for her permission or agreement. know what I mean?

If you don't want a D, then go for the legal S. but don't go with IHS. It will suck your soul dry!