It's classic projection she's projecting herself onto you. She's being selfish but she blames you in order to take the heat off of her. You did the right thing. Let her vent, no amount of you telling her she's selfish will convince her otherwise. Leave her be and continue to work on yourself. When she gets all upset just tell her you're not going to let her bring you down and politely get off the phone. You don't have to to be her door mat. Always project happiness when around her. As she goes down this trail of unhappiness she will need a lighthouse full of happiness to return to. You have expressed that you may not want a relationship with your ex-wife in the future at least not a romantic one. Pray to God that he works on your relationship as friends for the kids sake. You ultimately want her to be happy for her and the kids sake, maybe not yours. You two are still at the beginning of all of this, so pray that God works on you, works on her for joy and wisdom and friendship. Have you ever read the book The Love Dare? Just curious it might help if you in fact do want to try and reconcile and rekindle some love in your relationship.
M46 W44 T20 M19 S21 D17 D11 D9 BD 1/2003 Reconciled 2/2004 Contemplating leaving again 4/2018 Deciding to stay 10/2018 (dodged another bullet...few)
