Anthony, I feel you. This is a common struggle. And common WAW/WW behavior. Mine put 100% of the blame on me. Was upset at my snooping. Said she was never happy. That she had worked on the MR for 19 years, even though I hadn't.

All of that was partial truths at best. Did I have 180s to make? Absolutely. But nothing I had done or was doing was worse than having an online EA, discussing sexual things, and sending nude photos. But in her WW fog she equated snooping with having a very sexual EA.

But I also know that it is easy to have regrets later. And my fear is that if you push her she will leave, separate and D, and deep down I know that isn't really what you want. And then you'll look back wishing you had been a bit more patient.

One of your goals should be to get through your sitch, Whether you save your MR or not, with as few regrets as possible.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018