Maybe I should move out temporarily then. It is against what the L say but I can write up an agreement and go from there. These are options to do things. I love my children and I don't think she is mentally stable at all which would cause me not to go that route. Yes, would I love to get the wife back before this one took over her body and keep my family intact? Yes. Do I hate the fact that she is cake eating and doing this stuff? Yes. I can give it a couple months to see and continue DBing. My therapist talks to hers and says she is painting a different story about our relationship. I told my IC that there were ups and downs in our marriage like any other. I said I do have things to change for myself but the biggest thing was stopping the drinking and has reduced my temper.
I need to work on emotions and impulses that tend to get me deeper into trouble. I am having trouble validating. I get defensive. I need to practice that but detaching better will really help me in that regard.
I am all over the place. She will be out of the house tonight and most of tomorrow and Friday night. Luckily, that will make it easier for me to focus on me and my kids. I keep reading the DB validation, dos and don'ts etc.
