typical WW on my hands (part II)

[SteveLW]

svdad, are you a right fighter? Sometimes the details aren't important. But the need to be right means you fall back on details. The desire of the WAS to want to discuss things is a common subject here. "I am sorry, but I have a lot to consider. I am not ready to discuss it right now."

This is DB 101 stuff. R talks = D talks, and vice-versa. Avoid them. Either she is going to file for D or she isn't. You agreeing to talk about it or not is not going to matter.

svdad, please consider the question about being a right fighter. Being right and being happy aren't always congruent. Trust me, as a committed right fighter for most of my life I had to learn that to be happy sometimes I didn't always need to fight for being right or justified all the time.