svdad, Just getting caught up on your sitch. Every sitch is different but I just wanted to give you a bit of an idea of what way this could go. I was/still am in the same boat as you regarding a lack of plan and understanding on W's part regarding a separation agreement or plans for how D might look. Myself and I think a lot of others on here possibly including you may be under the impression that our spouse getting a dose of reality about D may wake them up and in some cases it does. This did not happen at all in my case. As the months wore on my thoughts turned into "I want her to make a plan so we can get this settled and I can start to really move on with my life". That didn't happen either. I could be wrong but I have a feeling your W may be perfectly content ignoring anything to do with actually officially separating and the more you try and help her understand the reality of it the more she will avoid the subject.
