Regarding how you answered your W...….it was good.
We use what I call DB language on the board. You are picking up on it, and will see what I mean as you go along. I caution you about using that language with your W. For example, we told you to focus on yourself, right? Then you repeated that phrase to your W. However, this was not meant for her to hear. Just you. It's best if you don't try to pass along to her something that sounded good to your ears. I've seen other H's take something from the board and work in his conversation with the W, b/c he thinks it will influence or impress her. Usually, it just sounds odd and out of place. She knows he's picked it up from somewhere, b/c it doesn't sound like him. Make sense? However, the way you said it wasn't too bad.
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I replied, "No, I would never do that
Such a nice-guy response. She immediately put you into playing defense.
Why do you suppose she suspected you of monitoring her. The bigger question is why would she freak out?
I think this would be a good time to send her the text about going radio silent.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
