It will be good to have a “discussion” although discussion is not an accurate term for what he is probably looking for.
You could tell H you are happy to meet, but tonight is no good. Then suggest a couple of other times. You don’t need to jump just because he said so.
That being said, if you are strong enough meet with him. Listen to whatever it is he wants to say. You don’t respond to anything - you didn’t call this meeting. When pushed just reply “H, I am not prepared to answer that. I have not be working towards ending our relationship. I will need time to consider that. “
Gather all his concerns, questions, whatever. Then see a lawyer. Do not sign or agree to anything without seeing your L.
Kate, H is after something. Have no expectations as to what he is looking for. He may just be fishing or digging to see what he can get. With no expectations you also will have no answers, so you don’t need to guess or prepare for this. Stay firm on that. If some financial deal needs to happen have the L draft it up.
Stay strong, and just treat it like a business deal. One where you really, and won’t, make a decision on until follow up discussions.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
