typical WW on my hands (part II)

[SteveLW]

I like that answer......but I think you should have employed that the first time. You've now established a pattern. She thinks she can get your ear about this stuff. Likely her goal is to get you to do the hard work of the actual D. Stand your ground on that. Please do not let this become an occasion to scold her. Her: "I want to discuss separation." You: -ask 20 questions to which she has no answers- "Do not come to the table again unless you've done your research!"

This gets you no where. There will come a time when she has talked to a lawyer, or mediator and will have an appointment. Let her start with that. And then engage. Anything else is just you using it to make yourself feel better knowing she has no idea, and you taking her to task over it.

svdad, how do you think your exchange with her helped your sitch?