maybe stop eavesdropping. It's probably not helping you, you even said it's tearing you up emotionally. So go do something that builds you up emotionally (GAL).
Prepare for the worst, hope for the best, put your focus on what you can control. You have been DB'ing for a very short time period, it's not an overnight fix.
Nobody knows what the hell she really means, probably not even her. She's in pain too so give her time and space.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.