[quote=svdad]I told her next time we talk she better come to the table having done her research and knowing at the very least her ideal parenting plan.
This sounds like a threat. So what if she DOESN'T do her research and comes to the table again?
It's not a threat, it is a demand in order to be able for me to participate in talking again. If she does not come to the table with what I am asking for, I will have nothing to discuss. There will be no talking.