So I get home and she says she will held going to the funny bone. It is a comedy club. This Friday. The OM does comedy on the side. So not really buying this stepping back stuff. How do I go about asking her to move out?
Not sure how separation works and how they decide who moves out and who stays. I guess I can ask my attorney? I assume legal separation is only option to get her to move out.
Well you can ask her to leave, but you can't force her to as she has as much right to stay there as you do. Sometimes they do go ahead and leave because they want to anyway. If she refuses to leave then yes, you're left with legal proceedings as the only option. You'll have to ask your L for details, it varies from state to state (here in TX there is no such thing as legal separation, only D). If you pursue S or D then she may very well paint herself as a victim to the court and demand to keep the house and make you pay all the bills, so definitely discuss with your L before saying or doing anything.
