Stander, regarding the circuit breaker thing. That's pretty much why I'm running into issues with Mary right now, my walls are still up to strong and she's looking to have me open up. I've avoided doing so because I'm afraid to show her that I pretty much still feel dead inside, what portions of my emotional Spectrum are not comatose are behind High walls of self-defense.
I know it's tough after BD and the aftermath, but maybe try to open up to her a little more. There's nothing that says you have to go from zero to 100 in 3 seconds, so if you're at zero now then try for 10 and see how it goes. She'll feel better about the R and you might find that it helps you as well.
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as far as why we had to see each other face-to-face, our son was sick and she had kept him out of daycare.
That makes sense, I was just wondering if she was finding an excuse to see you.
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I honestly can't say if it was a temperature check, I don't know what your friends situation was but I cannot see her ever backpedaling from the amount of drama lying and deception that went down during our break up.
A temp check doesn't necessarily means she wants to get back together. It just means she's checking to "see where you are". She's wondering if you've moved on or if you're still holding a candle. And maybe she's checking to see what HER feelings are towards you. That could very well be why she wanted to bring S by rather than have you pick him up at BF's house, she just wanted to lay eyes on you and see what her personal reaction was.
Regarding my friend, he fully believed there was a zero percent chance they would ever get back together. You've heard of burning bridges, well she bombed the bridge, put dragons in the river under it and napalmed the surrounding area as far as the eye could see. That actually probably helped him drop the rope faster, because she was done, done DONE in his eyes. It just goes to show you never know what can happen. I hear people say "my WAS is done, there's no chance" here just about every day but they simply do not know that. No one knows what their future holds. Whatever they think they know is probably very wrong.
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Also when she was asking me about my life and my situation with Mary she definitely made a point to mention that oh, and I quote, we have both moved on and are happy. I don't know if that was her attempt to try and reinforce her situation with the new guy.
Probably a temp check to see if you would say something like "oh, well things aren't going that great". My ex does the same, says crap like "I really don't know what's going on with you two" (about me and my GF) like it's any of her business. Again it doesn't mean she wants to recon, she just wants to know your "status".
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Honestly I don't try to figure out what's going on in her mind anymore.
Good, that's for the best!
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but if you look at her social media you wouldn't know that she was dating anybody. She literally doesn't even post a single picture of his face.
She's keeping her options open in case someone "better" comes along. If she meets someone she doesn't want them to look her up and see she's "taken". I suspect Steve is right about OM having a BD in his future.
