It is a process and the more chances I make for myself, the more I get out there, the more experience I will get, the more likely I will find her. All of the negative feelings of rejection and so forth will go away as I continue. I know it will. I say that because I am not dwelling and beating myself up for my latest attempt. I brought my best to her and if she is no longer interested, there will be many others who are.
Yes exactly. And if you're not ready now, then pull back and take a break. There's no rush, you've got whatever time you want and need.
Originally Posted by Phoenix9
I don't know if it was the rejection that is causing this, or if it's the way things should be when it comes to dealing with a STBX that is still involved with OM2, but I am reeling in pain right now.
Well it happens, just when you think the cycling is over, boom there it is again. Just let it happen and focus on your GAL activities to keep you busy.
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I'm still trying to wrap my mind as to how and why WW decided to take it this far.
You'll never know, and you need to accept that you'll never know. It's been many years for me and I still don't know why it happened and accept that I never will. Sometimes there are good, solid reasons for a WAS to walk out of a relationship but often there are not. What was fine to her before has suddenly become unbearable. There's no explaining it.
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I'm still trying to comprehend whether the R she has with OM2 is an affair gone into R status or whether it is not an affair because we were on a trial separation for three weeks before she met OM2. Virtually no one outside of this board sees this as an affair. STBX is fully entrenched with OM2 friends and family. She is a part of their lives. I have no idea if they have embraced her as one of their own but from the sounds of things they have. She is a part of OM2's friends and their kids lives. This whole thing doesn't seem like an affair. This is a love story where everything is going right for her.
How much do you love your W? Do you love her enough to want her to be happy NO MATTER WHAT? Enough to let her go and to be glad for her that she has found something that she feels is better, and makes her happy? Because if you hate that she's happy, well then you don't really love her do you. You just WANT her, and you don't want anyone else to have her, and that is selfish. If she is happy then be glad for her, drop the rope and move on.
