A thriller, how interesting that helps you sleep! I listen to podcasts.
I agree that them leaving their things behind is kind of mixed. On the one hand, they have a life at home and stuff. And dh will take his gym clothes to use when he comes here and then I'll wash them and put them away, just like he is here. On the other hand, it's a constant and often painful reminder that he's NOT here. Dh has a very large flat I believe (I've never seen it) but he didn't take that much stuff with him. Occasionally I ask if I can get rid of something of his (books he will never re-read for example) and he gets furious and then I point out he could take them to his flat and then he shuts right up. But I didn't get rid of anything of his yesterday, I've come to see that for him, stuff is bound up with his abandonment issues. So when I've had the decorating done I've moved his stuff around, collected it together and if necessary, put it somewhere out of the way. It helped having the decorating done actually, because it meant stuff had to be moved about.
Dh did ring yesterday, he rang when he got back from work so I phoned him back just before yoga. We had a little chat and he sounded tired and a bit distant but not unfriendly. Yoga was very nice and relaxing and the teacher gave me some tips for my sore wrist from typing.
Big day today! I will sleep calmly beside dh tonight and not get worked up. Might practice some breathing before bed.
