you smiling right before BD does not make you stupid. You should read some other situations here, one guy's W had an affair for 4 years before she BD'ed him. We've all been the buddy.
Don't try to make things painful for her, unless you just want to show her how much power she has over you. Look to your morals and figure out the right thing to do. Why do the six sessions seem like a poor choice? Because you don't think you're close to getting her back? I think I know why you are feeling low right now, and I understand why you are upset. But remember, some things are out of your hands, make the best out of the things you can change.
What kind of support are you hoping to feel from your church leaders?
What support from the church leaders. Well I was talking a lot with one of the senior ministers in the church district. Then he was transferred to a new assignment. So there isn't much reassurance spiritually.
My faith isn't as strong as I'd like and he was clearing up questions I was having.
Help?
H (me) 56 ; W 54 ; M 32 ; D 32 ; D 30 ; S 21 ; Grandkids: 12, 11, 10, 8, 1