Actually yes I’m seeing some similarities. I’m not saying this to be rude, cause I do enjoy your posts and you do point some good stuff out Don. But you call people out on everything! You notice everything and call people out on it. Now on a forum it’s great. It sparks debate. It’s entertaining . Most of us that post on here have a bit of an obsessive personality and we enjoy dissecting ourselves and others. We are anonymous posters so for the most of us little offense is taken.
But IRL to have someone point everything out that I’m not doing right is exhausting. I’m just trying to share an event or feeling or frustration with him and he’s pointing out something. When Ginger was talking about her daughter, I think she was just telling a story. But you found something to correct her on. That’s exactly what I feel like I am going through. Now it was a good point for me cause my son does the same thing but when he does that constantly it makes me feel critiqued . Like doesn’t he realize all the 100 other things I have to contend with? Doesn’t he realize that sometimes I just have to let things slide and pick my battles. It doesn’t feel helpful. It feels adversarial.
Now there was only 1 time that he was 100 percent right and I did the opposite. But that was after a lot of other debates that sure I could see his point, but I think my point was better for my situation. I just start to feel like I want peace not a constant banter over small things. I have been through a lot of trauma and arguing - with my ex, with my lawyers that were overcharging me, with my sons school district. I don’t want to argue about things like who to ask for directions from or which clothing rack I look at or whether I’m walking in a straight line or whether my son should be on meds or whether I brag too much about my son and my parenting . I just want peace. He feels like A.I. want things sugar coated and that I say I want honesty but can’t really handle it. But just cause it’s his honest opinion doesn’t make it truth or real either.
I don’t think he’s a bad person. I just think he’s coming at me with too many critiques and not enough good stuff. He’s my boy friend, not a poster on a forum. It feels like he’s creating drama. Your right. I have no issues with being alone. I actually do better when I’m alone. But I do feel bad and o don’t understand why. I just don’t feel like I’m getting anything great out of this relationship any more to warrant the criticism
But I’m also wondering if I am particularly hypersensitive or if he has been out of line. I am a fair person
