Alison, no criticism taken!!! You are completely right, I haven't given her that in 20 years, clearly. I definitely appreciate the insight from the female perspective. I will take all the help I can get!
R2C, I never thought of the effort it takes to look that good. I always say how good she looks (making it about her physical appearance) rather than her outfit or style or hairstyle, etc.
Steve, I hear you! I will start super slow, maybe once or twice a day. My fear is that I'll have some expectation of what should come "in return" like her touching me back or looking at me and smiling.
I really had a good day. Did lots of GAL, taking care of myself, and giving her space. When we had communication, I made the best of it and really engaged with her. I even asked her thoughts on a business decision (which I would have never done). She really gave great advice. So, I said, "I think you're right, thanks for talking that over with me. That's good advice...you always have a good intuition for these things." She replied, Well, thanks, that means a lot to me. Another fear that I have is that she will think these changes are too much...although these are the exact things she's been asking for over the last 20 years...to be heard, to be validated, to feel cherished, appreciated, and loved. I think she's in a little bit of shock, and it certainly waiting to see if the bottom falls out of this. She either feels like these are too big of changes or I can't make them permanent. This is just me being me and overthinking stuff...but glad I can do that here and not verbal diarrhea on her.
Me: 44 Her: 42 T: 22, M: 20 D:18, S:16, S:11 Sep: 6 months in 2002 Sep again: March 15, 2015 (5 months) WAW talk again: January 21, 2019
