Dating after Divorce

[Twofeet]

I wanted to fire this thread up some more for discussion and to learn from all you experienced folks.

I don't know from the post-D woman's perspective, but from the post-D man's view do the women just start coming out of the woodwork or is did I just have the husband blinders on before? At times I feel like chum in shark infested water, and this is a very new feeling I am not used to.

Here is something else... When XW moved out I figured I would keep putting in the work on myself then when D came around I could start dating. Post-D people here said slow your roll which I agree with. I am not ready, I still have very quiet feelings for XW that come and go at times. However, I am starting to just feel "meh" about all this potential dating and intimate R in general. Did this happen to anyone? I mean I have already had the opportunity to date a few women without even trying, but as I alluded to I am not ready. I just haven't been feeling the interest in dating even though the women are very interesting. The initial excitement in the idea of it all is just gone.

Some aspects of life from a post-D lens just isn't that great anymore. Maybe I am being naive.